2018 Resolutions & Goals Down the Tube?
If you haven’t kept your New Year’s Resolutions, you’re not a dud, and you are not alone. Most people don’t even make New Year’s Resolutions anymore because they know they will not keep them. That is because of the nature of New Year’s Resolutions and Goals. They are not made seriously.
Yes, you may really want what you have resolved, but you probably have not gone through the process to bring it into being. It’s not too late to keep that resolution or achieve that goal. Here’s some coaching to get you back on track.
Here are 8 Must Haves to Achieve Resolutions and Goals
A Crystal Clear Vision of what you want. Sit down and start writing your thoughts and feelings about what you want. Let them flow until you see it clearly and what it is going to take. Write what you REALLY want in caps and in bold color.
The BIG Why: When I was practicing as a diabetes educator, we found that people were not motivated by fear of the terrible complications of diabetes. They were motivated by things closest to their heart. I remember one veteran with complicated diabetes whose “Why” was to dance at his granddaughter’s wedding. She was still a little girl. That “Why” got him through the many changes he needed to make to stay healthy, and realize his dream. Go really deep and keep asking yourself questions until you get to Your Deepest Why. That is your personal POWERFUL MOTIVATOR that will keep you on track.
Create a Visual: Meld your resolution or goal and “Why” together into something you can see every day to remind and motivate you. Be creative. Let yourself delight in your creation of it. It can be pictures, sayings, objects, whatever makes you feel empowered to make it happen. Then interact with it at least twice a day.
Make a Plan and Schedule It: Write out the steps you will need to make it happen. Include check points and milestones. Schedule everything in your planning system. For example, if you are reading a chapter of a book every day, schedule what time you will do it. Then keep that time “sacred” for that task. Nothing is negotiable unless it is an emergency. Have little children? Work around them or enlist help from your partner. It is good for young children to know that a parent has times when they are not easily available to meet their whims. It fosters self-reliance and respect. But I digress. See “6 Ways Lists and Planners Can Help Keep You in Balance”. Planning and scheduling are crucial to meeting your goal. https://shiftintobalancenow.com/6ways-lists-planners-keep-balance/ Failing to create time to work on your goals is probably the most common reason people don’t keep resolutions or achieve goals.
Commitment: Until you have truly committed to create or do something, you will always allow something to get in the way of achieving it.
“In life, you either have the results you want or you have the reasons why not.” Werner Erhard
That’s a little harsh, but true. Here’s some wisdom that is more encouraging.
“Until one is committed there is hesitance, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”
W.H. Murry -Scottish Himalayan Expedition
Write down your commitment and read it daily. Tell others what you are going to accomplish. Somehow it makes it more real and increases your commitment.
Enlist an Accountability Partner or Professional Coach: Having someone you report your progress to on a routine basis keeps you on track and moving ahead. You may have a friend who would be a great partner, and you could be one to them. You get to decide how often and how you report your progress, or lack thereof and why. I would not set your check-ins more than a week apart. It could be even daily at first. Then you can spread them out. Encourage one another.
If you are really serious, hire a professional coach. A coach will lock arms with you to help you realize your dream. You will work together to get a crystal clear picture of what you want to accomplish, identify blocks and challenges and how to get through them. When you are losing steam, your coach will pick you up and remind you of your Big Why and get you going again. Good Coaches are worth their weight in gold. Paying for a service is motivating in itself. https://www.shiftintobalancenow.com/coaching
Stumbling: Okay, you’re not where you wanted to be with your resolution, but this is a new day, and it is still 2018! Every moment is a new moment, a new beginning. Start fresh this very moment. And when you stumble again, which you probably will, get up and get going in the next moment. Maybe you’ve committed to be off sugar, but that luscious Hot Fudge Brownie Sundae is screaming at you. Enjoy the sundae. Just don’t have another one for dinner or tomorrow even though your brain chemistry may still be calling. You are stronger than your brain. You’ll be back on track.
“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Celebration: Celebrate every time you do the new behavior, make progress, or complete a step toward your goal. Change is not easy. It takes repetition to create a habit, how many times is debated. The important thing is to keep going.
“Outstanding people have one thing in common: an absolute sense of mission.”
Here’s to a Fabulous 2018!
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